A person with nothing to lose is dangerous. My gut check is usually, “what is the risk?” Essentially I am asking myself, “can I afford to lose this?” This is a question we should ask ourselves every time we loan our bike or car to a friend. Forget the car, can you afford to lose the friend? Will you still like them when they don’t fix the car they broke the way you would have? Can you afford to not have your car?
In some senses, this is why the government loans us money to get an education or buy a house, it is in society’s interest for you to have something so valuable you will not want to lose it. This shows up in our relationships with each other. We fear losing the relationship so we hold back, not knowing the other person wants us in all of our glory.
What do we have to lose? Trust. When I look at our community I appreciate how much you trust us. When I look at my personal relationships, I see they are all founded upon trust. Especially when I look to my kids Alex and Olivia, I see how much we are trying to create an understanding of trust. We are discussing a fragile relationship, a thin line that we walk on.
When the trust is lost, we have nothing to lose and we become free. We often call this trust, integrity. Our word is backed up by our actions. How we hold ourselves accountable, is what becomes our integrity. It is our professional standard. It is yoga. It is the union between our mind, body and relationships. As we sail thru this world, trust in your relationships and maintain your integrity when it is challenged. I am conscious that my most valuable asset is trust. As we make changes around here, hold us to that standard. Look around at your own life both personal and professional, if the trust is not there, you have nothing to lose…you are free.
“Now that she had nothing to lose, she was free.” Paulo Coelho